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[Oct. 4th, 2006|12:17 am]
Advice & Support for long distance couples


I know everyone in this community is dealing with crazy ldrs, and to that I salute you. Now on to my dilema...

My boyfriend of six months has recently gone away to Scotland (we go to college in San Diego) for the year. Its been difficult, and I know it won't get easier. He then will be back at school for a year, and then he's going off to graduate school, which could be anywhere. I would really like to study abroad as well, but the only time I can go due to requirements in my major is during that year that he's gone. I would probably only go for a semster due to the circumstances, but it still sucks that in the next three years we'll get to spend so little time together.

This is a relatively serious relationship even though we haven't been dating for insanely long. So what should I do- go anyway and hope it works out, or is leaving during our potential time together just a death wish for an otherwise great realtionship?

[User Picture]From: tiggababygirl
2006-10-04 09:28 pm (UTC)
Well the in love side of your brain will tell you that it can work, and the practical side of your brain will tell you it won't.

Thats a long time and being a new relationship may not hold out. I would simply have an open relationship in a way. Such as, making a pact to tell each other if there is someone else out there either of you want to date. If you can mantain the friendship and feelings through out the college years. Then Im sure you'll make it at a later date.
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[User Picture]From: betterthansushi
2006-11-24 05:40 am (UTC)
its most important to live for you, and no one else. I almost made the mistake of going to a school because it was closer to my boyfriend... and we ended up breaking up... so fate did what it had to... i went away, we broke up, and i ended up in the right place. but if you have desires to study abroad, do it. because (and im not saying "oh youre going to break up, theres no way to know it) but say you guys didnt end up together in the end... you would kick yourself forever for not going abroad in order to see your BF a bit more. If the relationships meant to be, it will be. Time passes no matter what... so if you have a strong foundation, you'll make it through the time apart.
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