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(no subject) [Sep. 5th, 2005|05:58 pm]
Advice & Support for long distance couples

move_ya_feet
funny, i just joined this community.

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(no subject) [Sep. 5th, 2005|02:28 pm]
Advice & Support for long distance couples

lil_fatty
[mood |sadsad]

Hi everybody.

I just found a link to this group today and boy I think I might need it. My name's Mike and I'm gay. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years and after tomorrow, we're about to embark on our first long distance relationship. We met in NYC and have been together since. This summer, due to financial reasons I had to get out of NYC and move to Chicago, back home with my folks, to help repair my damaged credit. He is a native New Yorker and he decided he didn't want to live in Chicago, so now he's chosen to live with his best friend in LA and since he didn't make it in NYC, he's gonna try his luck out here. Ideally, I'd like to keep this as a short term, long distance thing, and either move to LA in a year or if he wants to, move to Chicago.

It's my first run at a long distance thing, I've never had much faith in them. I'm feeling really insecure. We did everything together everyday for 3 years...he is a part of me... and now it's gotta resort to this. A visit maybe every 2 months. I don't know where life's gonna take us, all I know is that I'm going to miss him. I couldn't sleep last night because today is our last day together and I cry all the time. I agonize about this change. My heart's being ripped out. I know we have to leave everything to fate...but I dunno...I'm just gonna miss my other half.
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Matt's Trip [Aug. 16th, 2005|11:51 am]
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tiggy162004
Well as promised i have photos of Matt's visit here. It was an amazing time and really the most fun I have had in a very long time. He is leaving for college friday so our time to actually talk is going to be limited. So if anybody would like to talk I will probably be in need of a friend to speak to during the time of transission. Okay and so this post ain't all text here are some photos

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NEW JOB!!! [May. 31st, 2005|08:31 pm]
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rugbyluver1981
[mood |accomplishedaccomplished]

Finally, a job worth accepting has come my way! I'm moving to Chappaqua, NY to nanny for a family of four (ages 8, 12, 14, & 15).

The mom is 100% flexible with my school schedule, so I'm probably going to enroll in Iona College's early childhood ed. program. Pace University is 5 minutes away, but their education program starts at elementary school, nothing younger.

I'm soo excited! And my mom's family is from this area of NY. My grandpa was born minutes away in Mount Kisco, NY. Plus, I'll be a train-ride outside of NYC.

When I told my guy about the job, he was so happy for me. Then I told him about a second offer in Short Hills, NJ (where he's from). I said I was turning it down, and he was pissed. He wants me to be closer to him when he's home from med school. So, basically, I am supposed to be more conveniently located when he's home every five months, two weeks at a time.

No way.

I'm done with sacrificing for other people. He gets to attend school away from me? He voluntarily chose a medical school that he knew I couldn't afford to visit? He can move away from me for two years, and I have to wait?

Fuck that!

I'm taking the Chappaqua job. And if he wants to see me, he can get in his car and drive the 80 minutes. If I'm so damn important, if he loves me as much as he professes (secretly at that)...then he'll accept my decision, and visit ME when he's home.

I love him with all my heart. But now it's his turn to show it.
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hard times ahead... [May. 23rd, 2005|10:55 pm]
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rugbyluver1981
[mood |lonelylonely]

This past weekend I received an email and (later) an AIM message from a guy who went to high school with me. He was a senior when I was a sophomore. Anyway, I had a huge crush on him, but he was completely horrible about it. (I'd rather not explain details...too stressful to recap.)

Fast forward 7 years to Friday night: he wants to catch up with me, find out what's been going on since high school. Ok, that's fair. I told him all about Richard, my long-distance guy. You think he'd get the hint when I explained how committed we are, how we joke about marriage and kids, and just that we're very much in love.

He said, "We should get together for drinks and talk more...casually of course." Fine, not overstepping any boundaries. End of conversation. Then, Sunday night, he AIM's me. He wanted to have dinner at some place...blah, blah, blah. This was starting to overstep A LOT!

Let's review...
1. He was crappy to me in high school, and we haven't talked since. What do we have to talk about?
2. He is definitely on the hunt for a girlfriend. His last two serious relationships (which he believed would lead to marriage) ended very badly. He knows we're both Italian and Catholic and that I'm ideal for the domestic life. So why were you so awful years ago? What have you done for me since?
3. He is playing "clueless" that I'm WITH someone very special.

I usually can handle things myself, but I brought Richard in on this one. He was PISSED! We're very trusting of each other and honest. So if I cry "HELP!", he comes running, no explanation necessary. If he weren't so far away, he would have told this guy in person to f**k off. Needless to say, Richard did it over AIM. I'm glad he did. Let the alpha males fight it out!



This situation has made me feel so far away from Rich again. I want him home. I can't stand that he's not here with me. Knowing he cares, knowing he's watching out for me...it all just reminds me how important we are to each other. And that there are no guys worthy of replacing him. This high school guy is symbolic of all the rotten guys I had to encounter...before Richard. And now that I have him, I can't even BE with him.

It will be another 90+ days before we can see each other again. And I'm counting every second until he returns.
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just thought id say... [May. 19th, 2005|01:28 pm]
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skittles6519
[mood |tiredtired]
[music |howie day]

hey guys! you should check out this community!!__ilovehim_
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new to community [May. 18th, 2005|01:14 am]
Advice & Support for long distance couples
rugbyluver1981
[mood |tiredtired]

I'm Beth (23), and I'm in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend of three years, Rich (22), is currently in medical school. I'm in Pennsylvania/New Jersey; he's in Antigua/Florida. Every four months he can visit home. Two weeks ago we had our first reunion since he started med school this January. Fourteen days home, and he's gone again until August 28. This cycle will continue for the next 18 months. Then he will be able to apply for residency in the northeast.

We're serious but not getting worked up about marriage talk. Both of our families say that we're destined to be together. But he and I know that talking like that will only make our separations more difficult. I KNOW this is man who will grow old with me!

We gave each other the green light to hook up with other people if we get really lonely. But neither of us can bring ourselves to do it. I just have to say THANK GOD FOR THE INTERNET! We talk on iChat every night and email constantly. He and I are trying to make the most of this separation because being apart hurts so much.



I'd appreciate any advice I can get to survive these long months apart.
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Tricia and Greg [May. 16th, 2005|01:19 am]
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skittles6519
[mood |lovedtoday is 1.4 years for us!]
[music |our song!]

Hey everyone, My name is Tricia and I am 21 and my s/o's name is Greg and he will be 23 really really soon and we are very much in love!! TODAY WE HIT 1 YEAR AND 4 MONTHS officialy and constantly!! We were best friends 3 months before we were official! I was asked to join this from someone from another community I am trying to get in!!! We didn't always have a long distance relationship, he went to my college and at the end of his first semester there of his last year there! We have been dealing with long distance since May 04. He lives 1 hour from me when I am at school and then when I go home we are 4-5 hours away :0( It's one of the hardest things I have ever had to do but we love eachother and know we are meant to be together so we don't have a choice, we have to get through this! I would love to have people to relate to about this! Is there a application that I need to fill out or anything to join? Let me know!!
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Promotion [May. 10th, 2005|09:28 am]
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tiggy162004
I am the mod at a community for relationships between 6 months and 2 years and we are trying to get it started back up so fell free to join or if your a member come back to us we really don't bite i promise.


come join us
youngcouples
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My Trip [May. 7th, 2005|10:39 am]
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tiggy162004
So i decided to put some of our photos up on lj for you guys to see its only going to be a couple and then if you want to you can go to the link here
http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/goodygirl_162004/album?.dir=/45a8&.src=ph&.tok=phY5l8CBqkl1lmZ

It was a great trip and i had an amazing time with him at prom and while i was at Annies.

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