|hard times ahead...
||[May. 23rd, 2005|10:55 pm]
Advice & Support for long distance couples
This past weekend I received an email and (later) an AIM message from a guy who went to high school with me. He was a senior when I was a sophomore. Anyway, I had a huge crush on him, but he was completely horrible about it. (I'd rather not explain details...too stressful to recap.)
Fast forward 7 years to Friday night: he wants to catch up with me, find out what's been going on since high school. Ok, that's fair. I told him all about Richard, my long-distance guy. You think he'd get the hint when I explained how committed we are, how we joke about marriage and kids, and just that we're very much in love.
He said, "We should get together for drinks and talk more...casually of course." Fine, not overstepping any boundaries. End of conversation. Then, Sunday night, he AIM's me. He wanted to have dinner at some place...blah, blah, blah. This was starting to overstep A LOT!
1. He was crappy to me in high school, and we haven't talked since. What do we have to talk about?
2. He is definitely on the hunt for a girlfriend. His last two serious relationships (which he believed would lead to marriage) ended very badly. He knows we're both Italian and Catholic and that I'm ideal for the domestic life. So why were you so awful years ago? What have you done for me since?
3. He is playing "clueless" that I'm WITH someone very special.
I usually can handle things myself, but I brought Richard in on this one. He was PISSED! We're very trusting of each other and honest. So if I cry "HELP!", he comes running, no explanation necessary. If he weren't so far away, he would have told this guy in person to f**k off. Needless to say, Richard did it over AIM. I'm glad he did. Let the alpha males fight it out!
This situation has made me feel so far away from Rich again. I want him home. I can't stand that he's not here with me. Knowing he cares, knowing he's watching out for me...it all just reminds me how important we are to each other. And that there are no guys worthy of replacing him. This high school guy is symbolic of all the rotten guys I had to encounter...before Richard. And now that I have him, I can't even BE with him.
It will be another 90+ days before we can see each other again. And I'm counting every second until he returns.