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Relationship Slumps. [Oct. 8th, 2006|03:47 am]
Advice & Support for long distance couples
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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost eight months.
He moved about an hour and a half away to go to college about a month ago.

The other day he told me that he still cares about me as a friend, and 'loves' me, but doesn't have romantic feelings for me anymore.

We talked today, and he said this was a recent occurence, in the last week and a half or two weeks.

He says he doesn't 'like' anyone else up there, that his feelings for me have just faded, and that the relationship isn't there for him anymore, if I gathered correctly.

He says that his life is there, and my life is here, and even when we saw eachother (we saw eachother the weekend after he left, but haven't seen eachother since) he was just thinking about how he'd have to go back.

I can't help but just think that this is just a slump in the relationship that we could get past.
He apparently hasn't been feeling this way for that long, and he says it's nothing that I've done that has changed his feelings, that they have just kind of gone away.

Has this happened to anyone in a relationship before?
What can you do to get through it?

I really love him, and care about him (he's an amazing person, and everything about him is just- right to me), and he's the most important thing in my life, and if it's just a little low point that we can get around together, I'm going to regret not doing something to fix it when I had the chance.

Is this fairly common?

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[User Picture]From: betterthansushi
2006-11-24 05:42 am (UTC)
im sorry if i've gotten to this too late...
this is how my first relationship ended, and i was DEVASTATED. But, Im a firm believer in everything is as it should be... and although parts of me STILL love that first boyfriend, things happened for reasons and i know it means there are other things out there for me. Long distance is hard and it's not for everyone, if he can't handle it and wants to live his life where he is, theres not much you can do to stop him. Though its really tough to lose someone you love, you should do the same and really just take in everything your place has to offer... don't make my mistake and let it ruin the first few years of your life at college, because i missed out on a LOT being stuck on that boyfriend...
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