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[May. 26th, 2006|10:28 pm]
Advice & Support for long distance couples

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Hi everyone. I'm looking for some insight/advice about a problem I've been having related to my LDR. Background info: My bf and I have been together for 2.5 years and live about 4 hours away from each other, so we see one another about every two weeks or so. Anyways, my problem is that I've been having dreams  (quite often) for about the last six months or so in which I cheat on my bf. In most of the dreams, I have sex with my ex, who was my first love. In all of the dreams I think about my bf before I cheat, debating whether or not I should cheat on him; I ALWAYS choose sex over the relationship and always feel really guilty afterwards. Last night the dream consisted of sex w/ a younger guy, not my ex, but still the whole "Debate on whether or not to cheat on my bf" conundrum was still there. The dreams are occuring often enough that they are beginning to disturb me and make me doubt my relationship. Any ideas on what I should do? Thank you!

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[User Picture]From: betterthansushi
2006-05-27 07:54 pm (UTC)
Hey, well MAN can I relate... unfortunately my long distance relationship ended and he turned out to be a real asshole but i still have dreams about my first love (and still love him.) Either way... our situations are NOT the same in any way, you still have your boyfriend and love him and so i'm sure that the cheating dreams have nothing to do with cheating itself. Usually when you dream of having sex with someone other than your significant other, it really has nothing to do with wanting to cheat at all. Here, I pulled this from a dream interpretation site:
"To dream that you are cheating on your spouse, mate, fiancé, or significant other, suggests feelings of self-guilt and self-betrayal. You may have compromised your beliefs or integrity and/or wasting your energy and time on fruitless endeavors. Alternatively, it reflects the intensity of your sexual passion and exploring areas of your sexuality. It is actually a reaffirmation of your commitment. Furthermore, it is not uncommon for people approaching a wedding to have dreams about erotic experiences with partners other than their intended spouses. Most likely, such dreams represent the newness of your sexual passion. It may also signify anxieties of changing your identity - that of a spouse."

See? I think everything will be ok... good luck!


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