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[Oct. 4th, 2005|08:39 am]
Advice & Support for long distance couples

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[lovexmama]
My finace is moving next week to Arizona (i'm in Miami Florida). Saturday to be exact. I AM A MESS. We have never been apart for longer than a week, and that was recently when his father passed away in May. I am so torn because i want to spend as much time with him as possible, but at the same time i want him to leave, so i can get used to the idea of him being gone already.

I keep thinking of how on earth i'm ging to say bye to him at the airport. When he left for the week in May, i cried EVERYDAY on the phone, and to my mom while he was gone, and that was for just one week. He's MOVING. i'm going to go up in November for a week, and it'll only be abut 6 weeks from when he leaves..and i keep telling myself that i can make it...but then i think abut him leaving, and i lose it again.

We're getting married in March, which doesn't make things any easier. I'll pretty much be putting this whole wedding together with my mom and friends. I know we'll only be apart for a few months compared to other LDR couples...but still, i can't take it!

How did you guys initially come to terms with your guy/girl leaving?
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[User Picture]From: betterthansushi
2005-10-04 10:15 pm (UTC)
Well hey, I'm from Miami too!! It's a bit different for me and Dave, we met when I was home on winter break from school (he lives in Ft. Lauderdale now, I go to school in Syracuse NY)... so after meeting and being together for like, 2 to 3 weeks, it was back to school for me, and we immidiately had to start dealing with distance. Almost 2 years later, we only see eachother on breaks, during summer, and any chance we get to visit eachother. And i won't lie, it is hard! Some night i just miss him so much, i don't know how im gonna make it to the next time i see him! one positive i've found about it though, it enables me to have a life here in school seperate from my relationship, so when i go home its alllll about being with the boy. i know if he were here, id have NO Friends, and never ever be social, etc.... but i understand where you're coming from, experiencing the distance for the first time. it will be tough at first, and feel like the times going SOOO slow, best thing to do is keep yourself occupied with anything you can (go to the gym, hang with friends and family, plan the wedding!!!) the more you do, the less time you have to pine and be sad. Nighttimes are the roughest, just make sure you guys get plenty of quality phone time together... you can do it! if you need us, even just to vent, please do!
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[User Picture]From: lovexmama
2005-10-05 12:42 pm (UTC)
The general opinion seems to be to keep myself busy as much as possible. I totally understand what you mean about having a social life apart from the relationship though. Since i'll be moving in March to Arizona to be with him..i want to spend as much time with my friends as pssible before not seeing them again for who knows hw long.
Thanks for the advice, and i'm SURE i'll be venting quite alot here! lol
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[User Picture]From: betterthansushi
2005-10-04 10:16 pm (UTC)
oh and one more thing... what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. distance is known to really strengthen relationships... a lot!!! If you can do this, you can make it through anything, so keep that in mind and be strong!
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