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(no subject) [Nov. 23rd, 2006|12:19 am]
Advice & Support for long distance couples

My name is Kelly and my boyfriend and I have known eachother about a year. We met a year ago at a convention we both were at and hit it off instantly. He ended up getting us a room the last night of the convention. Nothing happened except for sleep and he ended up giving me a ride home the next day. I lived in Wisconsin and he in Illionis at the time.

About 8 months ago his dad got transferred to a job in Florida and him and Andy moved down there. His dad traveled a lot between FL and Illinois and eventually was getting ready to move to Ohio. Since Andy was still in school down in Florida he let him stay there and at that point Andy invited me to move in with him. So I traveled by bus for more than 24 hours to get down there and spent 3 months down there with him. August 28th the lease on the apartment was up and he was forced to move to Ohio and I having no where else to go moved back into my parents house. Three months went by and I once again saw him at the convention we met at. It will be another 2 months before we see eachother again.

My problem is that he can be a jerk. He's a real gamer and every night when I call him or IM him he's usually playing a game. I love him to death but it gets so annoying when he ignores me to play a game.

What do I do?
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(no subject) [Oct. 31st, 2006|03:10 pm]
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Hey :) I've just joined so thought i'd introduce myself. My name is Angel, I'm 23 and I live in Brisbane Australia. I'm currently in a LDR.

My partner and I became involved just over 3 months ago online. He was the friend of a friend of a friend. I knew of him, had seen him around once, but never actually met him. We started talking and quickly fell for each other. We met in person for the first tim on the 1st September. He lives in Newcastle which is a 10 hour drive or a 1.5 hour plane flight, so we only see each other for one long weekend a month. Things have been moving pretty fast, and he as planning on moving up here at the end of the year.

Lately tho, we've been having problems. He's moody all the time, angsty, and short tempered. He has alot of insecurity issues and lately they've been running his life. It's destroying him, me, and our relationship. Neither of us have done the LDR thing before, so we're kind of struggling. I don't know how to get past this, we almost broke up last nite over it...

Sorry I rambling, still a bit of a mess today I guess..

Anyone have any advice on how I can help him? Or how I can get us through this? I know in person it would be soo much easier... but as a LDR, it's so hard...
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Relationship Slumps. [Oct. 8th, 2006|03:47 am]
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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost eight months.
He moved about an hour and a half away to go to college about a month ago.

The other day he told me that he still cares about me as a friend, and 'loves' me, but doesn't have romantic feelings for me anymore.

We talked today, and he said this was a recent occurence, in the last week and a half or two weeks.

He says he doesn't 'like' anyone else up there, that his feelings for me have just faded, and that the relationship isn't there for him anymore, if I gathered correctly.

He says that his life is there, and my life is here, and even when we saw eachother (we saw eachother the weekend after he left, but haven't seen eachother since) he was just thinking about how he'd have to go back.

I can't help but just think that this is just a slump in the relationship that we could get past.
He apparently hasn't been feeling this way for that long, and he says it's nothing that I've done that has changed his feelings, that they have just kind of gone away.

Has this happened to anyone in a relationship before?
What can you do to get through it?

I really love him, and care about him (he's an amazing person, and everything about him is just- right to me), and he's the most important thing in my life, and if it's just a little low point that we can get around together, I'm going to regret not doing something to fix it when I had the chance.

Is this fairly common?

x-posted everywhere I thought could help
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(no subject) [Oct. 4th, 2006|12:17 am]
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I know everyone in this community is dealing with crazy ldrs, and to that I salute you. Now on to my dilema...

My boyfriend of six months has recently gone away to Scotland (we go to college in San Diego) for the year. Its been difficult, and I know it won't get easier. He then will be back at school for a year, and then he's going off to graduate school, which could be anywhere. I would really like to study abroad as well, but the only time I can go due to requirements in my major is during that year that he's gone. I would probably only go for a semster due to the circumstances, but it still sucks that in the next three years we'll get to spend so little time together.

This is a relatively serious relationship even though we haven't been dating for insanely long. So what should I do- go anyway and hope it works out, or is leaving during our potential time together just a death wish for an otherwise great realtionship?
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HELP! [Sep. 29th, 2006|08:49 am]
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[mood |aggravatedaggravated]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year come Oct 7th. We live 1100 miles apart. We see each other every 2 months for about 3 weeks at a time.

My boyfriend suffers depression badly. And it seems like the littlest thing will set him off. He's always talking about how he's nothing, and how he will never ammount to anything. This aggervates me to the core.

It's really taking a toll on our relationship, I love him very much but it's like I can't take it anymore. Now my phone will ring and it's him, and I'm like UGH! because I know instead of our normal conversations of laughter and hope. It's going to be nothing but despair and depression.

HELP ME!! please if anyone has any advice on how to get over this hump Im open to and will try anything.

We're extremely communicative and I've told him all of this, it just seems to not make a difference.

Thank you in advance.
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(no subject) [Jun. 6th, 2006|11:28 pm]
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So John leaves tomorrow. He has been here for about three weeks, and we, of course, have been inseperable. Tomorrow is the last time I will see him for 2 months. :( What makes it even worse is that I was supposed to be going with him (He's going to Watertown NY to work for their baseball team), but he kind of screwed up and things fell through. I'm so used to having him here I don't know how I'm going to deal with being by myself. How can I go two months without him? I mean, I know I can do it, but I just don't want to. I need him to be here for me--my family is moving, and things are kind of crazy because of that. This is going to be so difficult... Any suggestions? Experiences? Stories? Thank you for listening...



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(no subject) [May. 26th, 2006|10:28 pm]
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Hi everyone. I'm looking for some insight/advice about a problem I've been having related to my LDR. Background info: My bf and I have been together for 2.5 years and live about 4 hours away from each other, so we see one another about every two weeks or so. Anyways, my problem is that I've been having dreams  (quite often) for about the last six months or so in which I cheat on my bf. In most of the dreams, I have sex with my ex, who was my first love. In all of the dreams I think about my bf before I cheat, debating whether or not I should cheat on him; I ALWAYS choose sex over the relationship and always feel really guilty afterwards. Last night the dream consisted of sex w/ a younger guy, not my ex, but still the whole "Debate on whether or not to cheat on my bf" conundrum was still there. The dreams are occuring often enough that they are beginning to disturb me and make me doubt my relationship. Any ideas on what I should do? Thank you!


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(no subject) [May. 14th, 2006|08:25 pm]
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I'm not really knew to LJ. I pretty much wiped out my old account. . . and restarting with a new. just to go off on a new life. . . with new entries. . . wanting some new friends.

A lil 411 on me. I'm a 20 year old Filipino girl. About to go to medicine school next year. majoring in X-ray and photography. What you will find in my entries could be intelligent ponderings, questions to life, random jibber jabber. You won't find me doing random quizzez and surveys (ok, very little. I do get bored some times, is that just so wrong?) and I like reading and commenting.

I would also like to add people who are also in a long distance relationship as well. this is one of the longest struggles in my life. and I just wanna comment and read, and understand the joys and issues of long distance relationships as well as have sympathy.
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hey everyone!!! [Oct. 28th, 2005|01:22 am]
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[mood |lovedloved]

Join!! This is a really fun and awesome community! Image hosted by Photobucket.com
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(no subject) [Oct. 4th, 2005|08:39 am]
Advice & Support for long distance couples

My finace is moving next week to Arizona (i'm in Miami Florida). Saturday to be exact. I AM A MESS. We have never been apart for longer than a week, and that was recently when his father passed away in May. I am so torn because i want to spend as much time with him as possible, but at the same time i want him to leave, so i can get used to the idea of him being gone already.

I keep thinking of how on earth i'm ging to say bye to him at the airport. When he left for the week in May, i cried EVERYDAY on the phone, and to my mom while he was gone, and that was for just one week. He's MOVING. i'm going to go up in November for a week, and it'll only be abut 6 weeks from when he leaves..and i keep telling myself that i can make it...but then i think abut him leaving, and i lose it again.

We're getting married in March, which doesn't make things any easier. I'll pretty much be putting this whole wedding together with my mom and friends. I know we'll only be apart for a few months compared to other LDR couples...but still, i can't take it!

How did you guys initially come to terms with your guy/girl leaving?
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